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Are you the right parent for your child?
As we navigate through motherhood, sometimes it seems like we wander aimlessly! So it’s important to know that there are tools that we can call upon to help! At Raising Her Faith, you can find support and encouragement. Let’s dive into a question that many of us grapple with…
If this isn’t a loaded question, I don’t know what is. I’ve asked myself the same question countless times. But let me reassure you in the way that God reassures me: You are the right parent for your child because God chose you for this role.
He doesn’t make mistakes.
Parenting is a rollercoaster of emotions, full of both joys and challenges. God blesses us with beautiful children but like anything, He doesn’t promise it will be easy. The enemy, however, seeks to sow doubt and confusion, whispering that you’re not enough. He wants nothing more than to coerce you to jump off this rollercoaster.
Are you the right parent for your child?
This question is an attack on you from the enemy because he wants you to doubt yourself. God never causes doubt. God always gives clarity. The enemy is loud, like a noisy gong. Train your mind to hear what God is whispering and not what the enemy is shouting.
Because mothering is like a rollercoaster, and Satans want to destroy me, he will always attack me when I’m already down. When Satan attacks me during mothering lows it often sounds like this: Who do you think you are? He goes on with – Who do you think you are? You are not equipped for this job, it’s too hard, these kids would be better off without you, you should just give up.
Does that sound familiar? We can overcome these doubt attacks with a clarity and confidence that only God can give. We need the tools that God has already equipped us with, so we can be reminded of what God already knows. We find the Armor of God in Ephesians 6:10-18, but we will focus on a few pieces of armor below.
Leaning on Jesus for Strength
To overcome these attacks, turn to the tools God provides:
- Shield of Faith: Ephesians 6:16 describes the Shield of Faith as essential for blocking the fiery darts of doubt and confusion. When you feel uncertain about your parenting abilities, focus on your faith in God’s strength. Just as David defeated Goliath by relying on God, not on his own strength, you can find courage in God’s support. David knew he did not have the strength to defeat Goliath apart from God, David knew God had chosen him, and David knew God was backing him. David could have distrusted his ability and questioned who he was, but instead he focused on who he knew God is.
- Belt of Truth: In Matthew 4:1-11, Satan attacks Jesus in the wilderness three times, so we better believe Satan is going to double down at this point. He’s coming with more attacks. The next tool we need is the Belt of Truth, we need that clarity from God. Paul explains the Belt of Truth in Ephesians 6:14, and we can use this clarity in truth to help us remember who God says we are. God created us with purpose, we are His handiwork, crafted with purpose, and set apart to do great things! (Ephesians 2:10) We can combat the second attack by knowing who we are in Christ.
- Prayer: James 1:5 tells us to ask God for wisdom when we lack it. Prayer is a powerful tool, not a last resort. Use it frequently to seek guidance and strength. Don’t underestimate the power of a simple, heartfelt prayer: “Hey God, it’s me, help.” We can confidently go to God with our very specific prayers over our children also. Snag your free guide to praying scripture over your children here.
- Sword of the Spirit: The Word of God, described as the Sword of the Spirit in Ephesians 6:17, is our weapon against confusion and despair. This is an offensive piece of the Armor of God! 2 Timothy 1:7 assures us that God gives us a spirit of power, love, and self-control. He did not make you timid. He did not make you cowardice. You are not giving up or jumping off that ‘coaster. You will arm yourself with a shield, you will arm yourself with the truth, you will arm yourself with prayer, and you will arm yourself with the Word of God. And together, you can God will fight back against the attack of the enemy on your mothering.
In the same way that Jesus uses scripture to fight off the enemy’s attacks, we can use Scripture to counter the enemy’s attacks and affirm our worth and strength.
Embrace Your Worth and Purpose
When the enemy whispers that you’re not enough or that your children would be better off without you, reject those lies. You are equipped and empowered by God for this role. Your worth is not based on your performance but on God’s love and provision.
You are the exact right parent for your child. Trust in God’s plan and embrace your role with confidence, knowing that He has equipped you with everything you need. You are not alone; God stands with you, providing strength and guidance every step of the way.
Remember, you are the perfect parent for your child, not because of your perfection but because of God’s perfection and He chose you and empowers you for this journey.